When my oldest daughter feeds her siblings or dolls, she extends the spoon toward the intended recipient and then opens her own mouth. It’s a reflex. She doesn’t even know that it’s happening. She models the expected behavior to the person/object being fed, the necessary first step to eat. It’s a sweet, unconscious reflection of her nurturing nature. It’s also a sweet reflection of her father.
I first noted this particular quirk when he would feed her as a baby. And then I noticed that his own mother did the same thing when she would feed our children. Sweet, sweet genetics. Learned behavior, perhaps, too–but if it weren’t for genetics the other two mini persons in our family would be opening their mouths when feeding others. And they don’t. I’ve checked.
There are other less, and some more, obvious traits that are traceable through the branches of our little tree. The shape of my middle daughter’s eyes, they are the exact same shape as my grandfather’s.
The way my son crinkles his nose when his smile passes the threshold between I’m happy and Holy shit, it’s amazing to be alive. I do the same, as did my mom.
It is incontrovertible evidence of the power of evolution and science. Evidence that we are each a unique compilation of the As and Gs, Cs and Ts of those who came before us. Evidence that there are some things we can’t fight.
My middle daughter’s Kindergarten class is headed to the Lincoln Park Zoo for a field trip tomorrow. She must’ve asked me about tomorrow’s weather 20 times tonight. I told her it would probably rain but not to worry, she’d still be going to the zoo.
She can’t wait for the zoo. She loves the zoo. She would spend every day at the zoo if she could. This zoo is her zoo. She knows every inch of it and has memorized the most inane of facts about its animals. Not simply species facts, but actual, individual animal facts. Family histories, favorite foods and preferred places to be scratched.
She can’t wait to demonstrate her expertise. And that desire, it’s genetic. Both her father and I are know-it-alls.
After I assured her that despite the forecast for rain she’d still be heading to the zoo, she shook her head and said, “That’s not the problem. I was really hoping for something I’ve wanted for a super long time.”
“What, then?” I asked.
“If it’s raining Caruso won’t be swinging outside and I was hoping that it would finally be nice enough weather for Caruso to…you know…do his thing.”
Then she burst out in giggles.
Caruso is a gibbon. A resident of the primate house who likes to swing inside the outdoor portion of his enclosure and piss on unwitting passersby.
It’s hilarious if you like that kind of thing. And in our family, whether due to nature or nurture, we do. Maybe we got it from that thirty-thousandth cousin a couple times removed we share with Caruso.
Here is video from Caruso’s birthday party last year. The dude is a legend.